Tuesday, July 8, 2014

FacebooKKK & Instagram: Kermit, Daquan & the Politics of Black Self Hate

When attempting to discourse at the highest level it is imperative that one realizes he or she may subjected to great scrutiny and even greater hate, oftentimes by people less qualified and educated, or simply by broke ass nig*as and ugly hoes. That being said, I will say from the start that I do realize the irony of writing a blog on black self hate and still freely using the N-word like I have a new mixtape coming out. To that I say This:

A.) My own usage does not have some faux-intelligent rationale about taking back a hurtful word and reversing the tables on racism by using it for empowerment,
b.) I use it because it now has a life of its own and has become an entirely different word than the hurtful slur and misnomer derived by ancient white people not being able to pronounce the country of Niger whilst enslaving our people and
C.) Because nig*a…, it is what it is.

Tako: Oh, this ni**a is back on his shit.

I’m not sure why, but every time I look on Facebook or Instagram, commonly referred to as IG, I always see a trend which catches on, usually started by the black culture and oftentimes demeaning it whether knowingly or unknowingly. I’ve been told that sometimes you have to laugh to avoid crying….this is true.
 It is also true that a lot of these trendy Instaposts, memes and screen-shotted fake quotes are funny…but at who’s expense? I laugh at a lot of the clever satirical jokes and not so subtle portrayals of the nuances of black culture, but I laugh because I’m mature enough to understand them in the context of today. Everybody is a little bit culturally insensitive (I don’t want to say racist because some dont intend to be hurtful) and the only joke is people pretending complete racial tolerance now exists. The memes expose this sort of pseudo intolerance, and quite frankly, I’d rather have it in the open. Why then, is this a problem?

Blacks disrespecting black culture is a problem mainly because….well….nig*as are so damn extra! They always take it too far! I understand the whole “If I laugh at my culture maybe the dominant culture in opposition will accept me as their own” idea. Think its not true? To that I say, merely look at the whole “light skin vs dark skinned” memes that our own people disseminate. Shameful. So shameful I wont even repost them. A good way to try and fit in, but ultimately flawed, as you are making yourself the butt of a joke told behind closed doors you still cant enter. I cant just blame my contemporary n*ggas and n*gettes, this is rooted in the paper bag tests of the jim crow era, migrated to “your mama so black” jokes and unlike the N-word, it hasn’t evolved past an ugly practice of self hate on a segment of our population to make ourselves feel closer to the dominant culture. Again….Ni**as always take it too far.  Look at Kermit the frog.

 Kermit is clearly black. Hes got a thick white girl chasing after him (Miss Piggy), He's always says “It aint easy bein green” aka “it aint easy being black.”

In the end, the whole “It aint none of my business” Kermit memes, derive from the In Living color skits where Kim wayans used to say “But I aint one to gossip so you aint heard it from me”/ “that aint non of my business...” And guess what? They're damn funny.

The Kermit memes are also subtle. They use “urban” phrases, reference hip hop songs and make references to a lot of things synonymous with black culture….but they are funny and tasteful. Plus, Kermit is green….racially ambiguous to most. 

Now enter the politics….ahem….”the racial politics” of Daquan, aka ni**as taking sh*t too far. What, or who is Daquan other than a not so fictional name, might you ask? (Sidenote I know an actual Raekwon & Ja’kwon so the name isn’t that far fetched.) Daquan is a made up African American character who dates a teen aged suburban white girl and whose habits rub off on her, only to the displeasure of her strict traditional parents.  These memes are funny….and rooted in truth……actually, in all honesty, they are quite lighthearted and whimsical. Take a look and laugh without fear of being judged…. We’re the last mutherfuc*as to judge.

The problem is not the memes but the fact that we as black people need to stop making ourselves the butt of global and far reaching jokes if we want to be taken seriously. Sure this is funny as an aside with your friends who truly understand black culture, but when viewed in mass it’s kind of like a minstrel show. We are puppeteers of the cooning Daquan puppet. Other than violent acts, overly righteous pseudo political protests, Don King and Jesse Jackson, Blacks are on live TV (not sitcoms) most often for dumb shit… Standing in line during a hurricane for a Jordan release…being toothless and saying “aint nobody got time for that”…having the biggest gold chain put in the Guinness book of world records or getting a giant ice cream cone face tattoo.

  Daquan is just a social media representation of all these things, and the worst part is, we barely stop to realize. Name one other race, group or culture who constantly tells jokes about its own members? The Jews? Nope. Muslims? Negative. Shit, do Mcdonalds employees sit around joking about other fast food employees? Do fat people  gang up on and joke on other fat people? Hell naw. There’s something to be said about that.

Let’s stop being the class clowns and allowing the fitted cap to identify the modern day dunce. Sure the Daquan jokes are funny and allow us to revel in the joys of a fictional interracial playboy, but lets just laugh quietly….and like the N-word….lets keep it to ourselves.

Live, Love, LOL.


Thursday, February 13, 2014

Show's Guide for surviving St. Valentine's Day

Ladies and gentleman, Valentines day is upon us….. in a mere day the climax of cuffin season manifests itself to the world in all its glory.  Cold winter nights beside your boo or sidechick may become inherently colder depending on your willingness and ability to effectively manage your valentines day strategy and strategically place yourself not in the line of fire, but rather in the good graces of your lady, her friends, and all the random broads on IG checking to see if you would be a liable candidate for them to throw some box at when your girl isn’t looking. 

Fuck Santa clause, V-day is a real ni**a’s version of Christmas. Think of this as Avon Barksdale giving you your own corner and points off the package. This is like the All-Star game of….well….game! How tight is your game? Is it tight enough to tip the scales of monetary poetic justice in your favor? For many this is the end of pre-season. This is when you determine whether or not you are a bench riding side chick, or a “starter”, and for those of you with significant others, your first valentines’ day is a chance to see if they’ll actually “start” to be a significant part of the rest of your life. Don’t be scared though, its not as bad as it seems…and as always…Show’s got ya covered.

Below is a list I’ve compiled over the past decade on do’s and donts, wills and wonts, nah’s and Hell to the Nahs. Consider this my gift to you all. Cliff notes on how to turn V-day into G-day.  BTW, for all the fellas  and ladies with weak game, I’m about to F**K Your WHOLE day up.

“Spit you game, talk your shit….” –B.I.G

Top 5 worst gifts to give if you actually care about him/her:

1.)    Lingerie (that shit aint for us, its for you! You picked it out, you get to keep it! Stop trying to sell sex as a “gift” before we start doing shit like “surprise, happy vday, I got myself a new shovel and some gloves since I know you love when I shovel the snow off your car.” Lingerie goes in the “shared responsibilities/ household items” category like trash bags and soap.

2.)    Money (Money is great, but giving me money which will ultimately be shared with or spent on you is the old 52 fake out. Telling you  “I aint got it” at this point, is like saying “can’t spare shit” to a homeless person who sees you at an ATM. Also “we can use it to go to dinner” means “you can use it to eat what I’ve really been craving while u find something barely palatable off the menu...but its ok....you're supposed to smile and like it because the vegan restaurant serves wheat grass beer.”

3.)    Department store Giftcards less than $100.00. “Ohhhh girl, I got him a 50$ gift card to Neiman Marcus. Sounds good, but what the fuck I’ma buy with 50$? Half a bottle of cologne? What you have essentially done was given me a coupon for 30% off…..thereby ensuring that I will spend MORE money at the store to take advantage of the deal. This is some ol' bullshit. 

4.)    Services (housecleaning, foot rubs, bjs,dishes…..while of of these things are great, they aren’t part of the bartering process. Nice try though. You’re better off with a walk and picnic in a secluded park if you want to be cheap...with yo cheap ass. 

5.)    Flowers, chocolates and teddy bears (Grow the fu*k up. You might as well buy the chick a freaking carnation for 1$ since we’re taking it back to 5th grade. Any teddy bear a grown woman was better be from when she was a kid….mater fact, scratch that, you can buy one of those Build-a-Bear jawns….those shit’s are expensive and building it is a good exercise is “compromise.” Chocolates though? Unless you personally trekked through the Swiss Alps and had gnomes personally make that shit for her, I’d say shes perfectly capable of walking to Rite Aid at 5:00pm on Feburary 14th and buying her own heart shaped box of assorted , shitty chocolates….Also, Ferrero Rocher ni**as…yall aint much better. LOL. 

Top 5 gifts if you dont.... I mean:

Top 5 restaurants to take a side chick for Vday

1.)    Olive Garden (simply number one because ni**as love it and try to pretend they are more diverse than simply eating at red lobster. This is an over inflated stat, but the numbers don’t lie. By trying to prove you aren’t a rachet Red Lobster fiend, you’ve turned olive garden  into the next best thing.

2.)    Red Lobster: Chessy biscuits, endless shrimp and devoid of the possibility she may be embarrassed at not knowing what fork to use or how to pronounce an entree item….you can’t go wrong. AVOID the classic rookie mistake of bringing home the cheesy biscuits. Try explaining “I was at Red Lobster with my boys” to wifey. She knows tyrone's allergic to seafood and big man wouldn’t leave no leftovers. Step ya game up son.

3.)    Fridays, Chilli’s or Applebees (the cheapest non-fast food meal you’re going to get without cooking at home. Sidenote: While cooking at home seems like a great, cost effective idea, remember….YOU ARE A SIDECHICK….he/she aint bringing you home. You’re buggin.

4.)    Cheesecake Factory (this is low on the list because, as the name implies, you know you will have to spring for dessert thereby making it more expensive. What this says is that yes, you are a sidechick, but he respects you enough to spend a little more bread on dessert. Young ni**a SPLURGE (Future voice.)

5.)    Harlem BBQ. (lets face it, he may be taking you out into NYC just to avoid all his girl’s friends in CT, but sheeeeeit, if he can get away the whole day ON V-DAY, you’ve got yourself a keeper girl. Don’t lose this side dude on account of your boyfriend….that ni**a be trippin. You got yourself a nice situation...he's special. LMAO.

Bonus: Just to fuck up your day some more

Top 5 Not Celebrating V day Excuses

1.)    It’s a pagan holiday invented by the Romans and perpetuated by greeting card companies to sell gifts! (Broke Ni**as)
2.)    We decided to mutually not exchange gifts (Afraid she’ll get me something expensive and I’ll have to spend this money I reserved for the Jordan Concord XI ni**as)
3.)    I’m on love with the money and will be clockin those hours (Chicks who wish they had a man or somebody to take them out)
4.)    I’ll be right home being a mommy with the true loves of my life (Chicks with no babysitter.)

5.)     Im just gonna chill this year and if anything, do something low key (Ni**as with no plans who will be playing 2k on Xbox / Chicks who may congregate at Buffalo Wild wings and throw shade at couples for being ‘too cheap to go to a real restaurant.’)

      Though this may apply to 50-75% of yall, Im sure you see the inherent truth in the scenarios presented above and laughed at least once. Oh you aint laugh? Lonely hoes. What you want a cupcake? Let me guess , you have a boo who is in jail? You buy a V-day gift for your baby daddy cause he's "such a great father" (Even after he left at the first plus sign on the EPT) and  even though he has a girl and a side chick neither of which is you? Ha! Yall are pathetic...grow up. And fellas, quit with the heartfelt statuses on FB beggin for a valentine. Man the fuck up. Re-read this post....internalize it...get some game and bag some of these lonely golddiggers....it's the American way.

The Bros are back and could give a fuck about you're feelins. Its hoodie season. Get down or lay down.


Friday, December 20, 2013

Redbone Thots for my Niggas.

Read the title. It sound good right?

Ahem. Clears throat.

 I know its been about four months since the last post and No I wasn't locked up, nor did I get some bald headed scallywag pregnant forcing me to leave the country. I just been chillin son. I'll try to be better at sporadically kickin the truth to the young black youth...and the overemployed thirtysomethings wasting company time on social media like its a resume builder. I promise. I'll try more often to get you some introspective shit, but for now, on with the show.

The other night Suge Knight, the big gangbangin Blood / founder of Death Row Records / ni**a that people used to care about before he got Tupac killed , was quoted as saying:

 "A lot of times when people say the n-word, I like that better than African American. We're not from Africa. We're black. Even Africans don't call themselves African.”

While my honest to God first thought was "this mutherfuckin nigga trippin,'" I later revisited the seemingly nonsensical statement and thought about it in more detail. I mean shit....I use the word all the time, and even when other races say it in a non malicious manner I shrug it off, despite my desire that it be "ours" exclusively.

 I mean its not like I'm gonna fight a nigga cause he said nigga...not "adult me" at least. Why am I not offended by my own culture's prominent use of a word that was so hurtful? Probably because I know the history. I know that sometimes the only way to not be hurt by something is to accept, or pseudo accept it. Every black person knows slavery existed and that this nasty, dirty word was the impetus behind a lot of the mistreatment our ancestors endured. It we act un-phased by it they can no longer use it to hurt us, right? 

Pac said it best. Nigga. Never- Ignorant- Getting -Goals -Accomplished...and while this was some ol' bullshit created after the fact, I like the spirit of this. Pac was smart enough to realize we originally accepted the word as a defense mechanism and said, fuck all this....we're gonna make it work for us. We did with this word, what we did to the pig entrails, scraps and chitterlings they used to feed us because it was the leftover, most undesirable part of the pig.... we made it delicious and made them ask for our recipe. 

Same thing with the N-word. We made something great from this hurtful thing...we gave it style and substance...and now, EVERYBODY wants the recipe... (Unless its during a job interview or a loan review. lol).  

The way we used to be scared when white people said the word, well not only are we going to make them scared when we say it, but we're also going to make them scared to say it around us. We essentially deebo'd the word. I'm not agreeing with Suge knight by the way, because that nigga is still trippin. What I am saying , however, is that to embrace something is to understand it, and while everyone may not break it down to the same minute detail, i can say that collectively, that we as a people "get it." We understand the N-word for what it is, and the only real reason not to use it, is respect for our elders who felt its hurt firsthand. Most of them, however, will be dead soon, so we good my nigga. 

I say all that to say this, the problem isnt with us using the word "Nigga." The problem is us worrying about our usage of the word "Nigga."

Let me break it down like miley on a molly at a Juicy J concert. 

Women don't call each other "my nigga," which would cause one to think they are inherently more mature, or culturally sensitive than us; they view our colloquialisms as "silly boy stuff" and blame it on our lack of sensitivity, not realizing it is really rooted in rationalism.  These same women, however, have taken similar power over the word "bitch," refusing to be defined by its negative connotations and ascribing to it a sense of fierceness. "Don't call me a bitch, im am That bitch!" or "Queen bitch." 

This I also understand and applaud the ladies for being so clever. What don't understand is the haphazard throwing around of a different word, which is not so well understood, yet used far more frequently: Red Bone. Women and men alike tend to associate with the "lighter is brighter" theory, putting "lightskinned , or mixed race girls, aka 'Red Bones' , possibly called so because of their historical proximity to the Red river, mix with Native American blood and  the fairer skins tenancy to turn red in extreme temperature conditions, on a type of pedestal elevated above their darker skinned counterparts without understanding why. Worse still, they don't even realize what they are doing while they're doing it. 

According to Don C. Marler, author of the book "the Louisiana Redbones," a red bone is a "person of mixed racial heritage who is a member of a group which defines its relationship to the dominant culture in a certain way. Physical characteristics are varied but typically include a dark skin, often with a copper hue, high cheekbones, dark eyes, dark straight hair, and no single body type. Less often they are of lighter skin, blue eyes, and blond hair. In those persons with some Negroid genetics Negroid features may be evident, such as darker skin, curly hair, wide nose, and thick lips.

Aint this a bitch. So yall just gonna take the "redbone subculture" which formed in opposition to the oppressive dominant culture and use it as a symbol of your own superiority, basically oppressing your darker skin counterparts?  Re-read that definition. Not only is this the exact opposite of what so called "Bad red bones" proclaim to be today, it is also flat out embarrassing.

The ancestors of our Caucasian friends oppressed us so in turn we are going to try and pull an okie doke, saying "hahaha, you're right, but those black jokes are funny and they dont apply to me because I'm light right? hey, look at the girl over there, shes dark. Not like "US." Jokes on you because whites in the antebellum south didnt care if you passed a paper bag test, they didnt like you either. You were a lightskinned nigga. Nigga.

The self forming of an internal caste system is a prime example of catty, crab in a bucket mentality and an excellent use by the oppressor of the divide and conquer strategy. I call niggas my niggas and they give me daps and hugs. You call your darkskinned sisters dirty black bitches and get eye roles and shrugs. Yall need to be yelling black girls rock, but instead, yall call each other hoes, fight over hues, and we call you Thots.

                                       "Im not actually captain planet, I dont save hoes."

T.h.o.t.s. Originally derived from the acronym for "That Ho Over There.

Lets break it down even further and I'll tell you what it really means:

 This Hides Our True Selves, & This Hurts Our True Sistas...but These Hoes On That Shit... and they wonder why we dismiss em."

One things for sure, this Fresh Prince needs a queen, not a THOTiyana Ali.

We need to stop worrying about the words and look at the actions we're portraying. Abolish the N-word? Nah. We need to abolish this culture of self hatred and perceived lightskinned superiority.  If not, at least I can say I tried to help my people out and as a consolation prize they'll be plenty of redbone thots for my niggas.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

How to Be a Man Pt. 1

I never had brothers growing up…but then again, I did.

You know how nig*as without brothers love saying shit like “my friends are like my brothers,” well, that’s how I feel about my cousins...and not necessarily my friends. LOL. Now when I say cousins I mean 1st cousins…not the type of “cousin” that you never met, see at a family reunion and still wanna smash. I'm talking my mutha’s sistas chillin (Old black lady voice.) One of my cousins in particular, Chain, called so because he used to chain smoke at like age 11, was truly like a big brother not because I looked up to him, but because he taught me all I needed to know about life. Be it duly noted that I did not look up to him cause I’ma a real ni**a and real nig*as don’t do that.

Tako: Lame

Wja3: My Big brother….was B.I.G’s Brother….used to be dame and B.I.G’s brother…. Haha

C4: Why the sudden interest in brotherly bonds…bein all sappy and shit.

Show: Isnt your brother’s nickname for you Hoe cakes? Shut up. 

Back to the story.

Chain taught me three things that helped me be a better man and which may help you all, Dezo especially, be a better, less sensitive, ho acting man as well.

Wja3: Shot fired.

1.)    Watch your tongue, but stand your ground. No Zimmerman.

Despite the fact that that Mackelmore “I can’t change” song makes me feel weird like I’m gay just for listening to it, I’m not homophobic. When I was little, however, the worst insult you could use against someone would be to call them a fag, homo, or gay blade. I recklessly let my cousin bear the brunt of one of my verbally assaulting tirades once….and only once. As I let the words “you homo” effortlessly glide from my lips…pause…he responded with a simple, yet effective strategy; he uttered the phrase, “If you see a homo, slap a homo.” I cocked back and slapped the bejesus out of him without even thinking, cause that’s what real ni**as do, and he proceeded to beat the dog shit out of me. I think I even got a black eye that day. Case in point, if  a man’s word is nothing, than neither is that man. Stand up for you believe in, but also be prepared to get your ass whooped if you talk to reckless. Twitter teaches you just the opposite, talk tough online and let the anonymity of the internet cloak you. Fuck the anonymity of the internet, let's talk face to face.

C4: Aren't you kinda talking to Dezo via internet though? Lowkey being an E-Thug.

Show: He's read it before it hit the net....and he can't beat me...

2.)    Listen to 1990’s New York Hiphop & wear timbs.

I know this sounds funny coming from a CT “sneakerhead” and also seems like a little less than a life lesson, but real talk, its all connected. Here’s a riddle for you. What walks on their tippy toes and complains when they have to walk too far, get wet or trod through the grass? Sneakerheads….and women in heels.  Nothing manly about spending your rent money on kicks then crying when somebody steps on them or asks you to remove them from the box.  If you cant perform daily activities in your kicks maybe you've lost sight of what matters in life and need to break out an old pair of timbs. You know what the function and design of a pair of timbs is? That of a work boot. Real men do work. Shit, my cuz had like 3 jobs with no SS# cause he was on the run from the law, Army and a baby mama! Again, real men support their families, get dirty and they listen to….you guessed it…real hiphop. Mobb Deep, Wu Tang, Kool G rap…Timberland and carthart hoodie music.


Not this...............................

Listening to too much drake, and weezy have men thinking its ok to be 5’3” and go to a salon, gossip with bitches about ni**as and air every last one of their feelings out on every available social network. Fabolous and Joe Budden especially...they're the kings of talking tough online and making emotional outbursts via social media. Remember Budden got mad his girl was cheating and twitpic'd the abortion & pregnancy result. Again,  it’s cool to have an Instagram of a facebook, but chill with the selfies, questions games and female candy crush ass traits. The n*gga getting all the sympathy for having the broken leg (insert 'posting sad ass tweetgrams') is still wheeling himself home while the nigga with the two good legs is offering the bad bitches his third. Trade the Vans and skinnys for a crispy pair of beef and Brocs and get out your feelings. Like seriously. Get off FB.  Roll dice. Listen to Ghostface.

3.)    If you with me and I’m fighting….we fighting….or we’re fighting. 

I remember one Saturday night I walked into the club so early that my cousin, who had arrived even earlier, was helping the security open the doors and arrange chairs; shit was real back then with the free open bar till 11pm. Lol. Not only is Chain wearing size 58 dress pants despite really being closer to a size 38, looking like Aladdin or  Hammer  since he didn’t know the official dresscode, he is also wearing gold fronts with fangs…in like 2006. Clearly he’s not hiding from anyone. Hours later a scuffle breaks out and all I remember is running after him as he chased someone out the club and down the street in snakeskin Stacey Adams shoes.

 It was then that I learned loyalty is everything. Most importantly though, remember who you’re loyal to and who’s loyal to you. Hand and hand with this, however, is watching who you hang with for the exact same reason. This is the “felony murder rule”: you have to know exactly who you’re hanging with, what they're capable of and how they’re bound to act, because many times you will be guilty by association, or forced into a situation where you are dragged directly into it. Are you willing to go to jail for your homies?  This metaphor goes beyond fighting though, it also goes for life. If I’m eating a slice and my brother is hungry, he get’s half...ask my other “brother” Fish. There wont be any of this, "Ima hit this steak spot, but you be cool at Mickedy D's and I'll hit you after."

If I’m eating, you’re eating…. Sometimes you gotta tell your girl that too….unless you scared of her. LOL.

A-Money: You're a Clown yo.

Truth be told, this list isnt anywhere close to exhaustive and this is why its only labeled part one. Chain is one of the 1st official NHB supporters as well as a person who i feel exemplifies the spirit of real nig*anism despite being a family man. There's a lot to be learned from people with experience and I for one am never to proud to learn something new. Hopefully yall will learn something new too....if not, I think there's a few hoes waiting to play with you on Ask.fm when their baby daddies are done smashing and they have no one to talk to.

Humility breeds success.


Wednesday, August 7, 2013

C4 is the Subway "Panhandler" in this CollegeHumor Prank

In case you were unaware what C4 looks like.

So what he was on Huffington Post, Gawker, Time, MSN, Bossip and Perez Hilton? He's a NappyHeadedBro first and foremost, ya dig?!

2 Ya Door,


Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Where to Meet a Man...Pause... and Where not to.

As of 2010 there were approximately 97 Males for every 100 females in the US. Taking into account the amount of Jordan wearing lesbians in contemporary America, I’d say that this makes the ratio pretty much even and the statement that “there aren’t enough men to go around” sounds outright foolish; Sheeeit, with the abundance and availability of ass shots, boob jobs and tummy tucks, even 4 flamboyant hairdressing males from Atlanta who prefer their bar stools upside down rather than rightside up couldn’t turn down a woman in this day in age.

Women… yall are winning, yet at the same time losing. Why in a day in age where noone can turn down a fine female specimen, are so many of you left hopelessly dealing with jailbirds, mommas boys, income tax ballers, habitual baby daddies and, well….ATL-iens…Bosh Boys…Mr. Cees or whatever you may call them? I’ll tell you why. Location, location, location! Nevertheless, don’t fret my pets. Like a good neighborrrrrrrr, the Bros are there (Allvoice.) We’ll tell you where to go and where not to go so as to find a ‘sole mate’ that has nothing to do with sneakers.

Tako: Booooo! 

Wja3: Good concept, corny joke. 

C4: That's the State Farm song.

Anyway, lets take a walk through the hood shall we? Strolling down the street... with my homie Tako...sippin on Gin and Juice. Shit, We're empty. Lets make a quick stop.

Liquor store: 

Tako: Oh so you like to Turnup? Get bent nasty? Swizzled? Hammered? Trashed & smashed before givin up the ass? Cool. Maybe you'll find a man here that likes to do the same and you can habitually argues over who's turn it is to be designated driver. 

Show: or you can use this as the perfect unsuspecting environment to casually meet a nice looking gent while gathering more info than he can fathom. 

Buying expensive liquor? Could mean he's rich or priorities are skewed. In the Moscatto aisle? Maybe he's gay or has a gf, boo thang or side piece. Is he drinkin beer? What type? Heinekens & coronas only could mean he's never been further than his front stoop or it could mean he's trying not to be called bougie at the hood cookout. Craft beer usually means he's college educated or at the least has white friends and or an adventurous streak. While the fact a man is in the liquor store doesn't automatically put him in a category, the info u can gain in this situation can be invaluable; as a meeting venue I give liquor store a B+.

Damn son, all then Gin & juice has me thirsty.... Let me stop at the gym real quick and grab a Dasani water or something. Pause.

C4: You did not just pause "dasani." 

Show: There's a uppercase "D". Cant be too cautious. 

Wja3: DEAD! 


Dilema. Everyone loves a fit physique but Noone likes to be bothered at the gym... Solution? No one minds being bothered by a beautiful woman, and if you are one, you can easily ask for lifting advice without seeming thirsty. The physical aspect is taken care of and you can filter out by other variables, such as desired salary, by avoiding low budget, no frills gyms like the ones that are 9.99 a month. See if he socializes and people know him by name... That means he comes a lot, as just like in a relationship, you don't build gym rapport without commitment. For women, the gym gets an A- grade as a meeting place. For men, don't even try it lest be banished to the land of neck rolls and side eyes.

Fu*k all this walking b. It's like 100 degrees out here lets get the whip. I'ma park it in the church parking lot, them nig*as won't tow us...I hope.


While it is a known fact that many a rachet hood rat has been know to make the cumfilled pilgrimage to church after a night of turned up sinning, men who attend church (excluding the preacher) ate usually there for one of two reasons: a.) he's there with family, as men don't usually attend church solo , or b.) he's there repenting for sins or learning how not to commit them. Either way, acknowledging your flaws and trying to better yourself is a good thing. These types will be genuine and if you keep coming and he's still there, he may have some potential.

Be cautious of the men in the cheap Steve Harvey suits or anyone under 35 wearing a hat as southern folk live by the code of "everybody goes to church because that's just what you do" so you may inadvertently run into an O.G Mack like Romey Rome. If he has rings or bling that isn't a Jesus piece, run!

If he has a Jesus piece on in church he just may be a little hood, but y'all like that anyway....check his jail record though. Meet a mate rating: B+.

Tako: I'm hungry b....and you tryin to be Hood tour guide and shit...aint nobody got time for that. 

Show: True, let me get this cut real quick, then we'll hit the moo shoo spot. 


Wja3: I always thought women who aren't single moms in barbershops look desperate as hell. Even single moms I wonder about... Like you couldn't get a baby daddy or uncle to handle that business? 

Yes, a barbershop caters to all walks of life and you will see everyone from thugs to businessman interacting, and it is through these interactions that you can learn a lot about whether or not your potential mate is "down to earth." You can see if he's a punk, I.e) is scared in the urban surrounding , b.) a good , patient or caring father, c.) cares about cursing around kids or d.) gambles. Clearly any man willing to hit that shop every week is well groomed and not frugal, which is a plus, but remember , there's no filter in the barbershop and this is "his environment..." just get your Steve Irwin Niggadile hunter on and observe; if you don't have a child, however, keep yo thirsty ass out the shop. Meet a man rating: C+

Tako: That shit took forever! 

Show: We can't all be half Asian with no beard. Lets get this grub. 

The Chinese Restaurant: 

The cashier at the Chinese spot is like a black woman: simultaneously the most respected (Dear Mama) and disrespected (ain't no fun) at the same time. While the Chinese spot never gets robbed, the cashier is constantly degraded on some "Ching Wong Wang Gimmie my loosie and my 4 wings fried hard." Watch how he treats the cashier and how he speaks to them as it speaks to his character. Clearly he's not a health nut, but maybe it's his cheat day. If her orders pork fried rice no vegetables, however.... RED FLAG. Run. Hood booga alert!

In the end though, just know you're getting a man lower on the economic scale (which is OK) with a splash of hood... Richer people will just order delivery and avoid the hood. Most important lesson here is watch how they treat the people who can seemingly do nothing for them, for this is the definition of "character." Find a man rating: C-.

Tako: Oh sh*t there goes that nig*a C4. We bout to go to Wja3's , you rollin? 

C4: Yeah, but I gotta stop and pick up some things to use as props for this sketch I'm workin on. There's a supermarket by here right? 


Spilling out the cup till it runnin over.... Holy grail. The supermarket is the goat of chance encounter spots as you are liable to find a man who is self sufficient, possibly health conscious, can cook, make decisions, find sales and manage his time. What more can you ask for. Follow him to the line and u can even see if he's workin with an American express card (he's financially responsible w/ good credit) or a rush card (he's workin on it.) lol. Either way , look in his cart and you can tell if he had kids and how he feels about nutrition.... Shit u can even tell his ethnicity or ethnic influences without him being at the cart. Tabasco? White. Goya? Spanish. Lowry's? Black. Franks red hot? Toss up. Lol

C4: Aiiight, I'm back. 

Show: Damn, wastin all my gas. 

Tako: Why you got the windows down and the A/C on then ni**a. 

Show: Im stuntin, though it's sad that gas has become so expensive that using it is "stuntin'." 

Friends House: 

Your friends house has two things,not counting the bad ass kids and roaches. 1.) the Internet , 2.) your friend. While Internet dating is a cornucopia of good and bad, I'd say the amount of bad outweighs the good as its too easy to lie online. IF, however, u meet someone online through a mutual friend, your chances on not being raped and killed increase exponentially. Networking is key to being successfully in America. It's how the rich stay rich, it's how the rich got rich, and it's how you meet someone after already knowing everything about them. This being said , it is the GOAT (greatest of all time) spot to add that extra switch to your walk and find a man.

Here is the key to nigga networking however: if your girlfriends man ain't shit don't ask to meet his friends. If she says one of his friends wants her to "put you on with" so and so... Run! Instead, go to the friend with the semi nerdy, clean cut boyfriend with a good job. He will have co-workers and not just "homies."

Perhaps he'll even have that edgy friend who is fresher than him but still handles his business like a grownup. Don't think it works? Ask my girlfriend. She met me through C4. Lol Meet a man rating: A+

Wja3: Well guys, I have to admit, you did a good job summarizing where to meet a man. I might even be inclined to say that you need to pause the fact that you know where to meet a man. 

Show: Chill. I'm just trying to help the ladies out. Showpac cares, if dont nobody else cares. 

C4: Lord. 

Either way, as always, the Bros have given our followers with tittes a stockload of ammunition. Use it at your discretion. Oh yeah, and if you choose to keep meeting men at footlocker or the club, dont say we didn't warn ya.